Comments on: Peregrination and Revelation http://soapboxrants.net/2008/11/23/peregrination-and-revelation/ Speaking on all things. Sat, 29 Jan 2011 09:51:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Michael http://soapboxrants.net/2008/11/23/peregrination-and-revelation/comment-page-1/#comment-1487 Michael Fri, 04 Jun 2010 18:26:50 +0000 http://soapboxrants.net/?p=367#comment-1487 Actually, I believe it is the other way around. Assumptions like yours are the problem. I do not believe that a "successful" relationship is one where it is based on a desire for wealth, power, or material possessions. Now, don't get me wrong. I think you should have a good job and be able to pay your bills with at least some money left over for enjoyment...but that in itself should not be a driving goal nor should it be the basis of a relationship if it is to be truly fulfilling.<br><br>Besides, who says I can't be a "free thinker" and still be successful in terms of occupation and finance? And for the record, my appearance gets more than a few compliments...but then good hygiene isn't something to skimp on.<br><br>The point I was making is that you have to set aside all of the assumptions that you so kindly stated in your post. Those very things undermine the foundations of a deep, strong, fulfilling relationship. They mute the voice that is the core of yourself. The first step is to learn to listen all over again. Actually, I believe it is the other way around. Assumptions like yours are the problem. I do not believe that a “successful” relationship is one where it is based on a desire for wealth, power, or material possessions. Now, don't get me wrong. I think you should have a good job and be able to pay your bills with at least some money left over for enjoyment…but that in itself should not be a driving goal nor should it be the basis of a relationship if it is to be truly fulfilling.

Besides, who says I can't be a “free thinker” and still be successful in terms of occupation and finance? And for the record, my appearance gets more than a few compliments…but then good hygiene isn't something to skimp on.

The point I was making is that you have to set aside all of the assumptions that you so kindly stated in your post. Those very things undermine the foundations of a deep, strong, fulfilling relationship. They mute the voice that is the core of yourself. The first step is to learn to listen all over again.

]]> By: Dave http://soapboxrants.net/2008/11/23/peregrination-and-revelation/comment-page-1/#comment-1486 Dave Fri, 04 Jun 2010 18:08:56 +0000 http://soapboxrants.net/?p=367#comment-1486 I think that you are operating under a faulty assumption. You seem to think that people with open minds who are always trying to improve themselves stand a better chance of having successful relationships. In my experiance, women are not interested in "nice guys". They are attracted to good looks and money, AND THAT IS ALL!!! They are not interested in what is in your heart. They dont care what kind of deep thoughts you have. How you look and how much money you have are their primary concerns. So stop wasting your time being a "free thinker", get a good job that pays well, and do whatever you can to improve your appearence. The only "nice guys" in successful relationships are the ones with lots of money and looks. I think that you are operating under a faulty assumption. You seem to think that people with open minds who are always trying to improve themselves stand a better chance of having successful relationships. In my experiance, women are not interested in “nice guys”. They are attracted to good looks and money, AND THAT IS ALL!!! They are not interested in what is in your heart. They dont care what kind of deep thoughts you have. How you look and how much money you have are their primary concerns. So stop wasting your time being a “free thinker”, get a good job that pays well, and do whatever you can to improve your appearence. The only “nice guys” in successful relationships are the ones with lots of money and looks.

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